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Posted in Uncategorized on April 23, 2014 by me

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Distractions

Posted in Uncategorized on April 23, 2014 by me

I used to think I did a great job of being alone in my own head.  I mistook being introverted, shy and alone with being in my own head.  And I do better than a lot of people at being alone, but I’m not sure that I was ever thinking about anything serious.  I did/do play a lot of games of “what-if” in my head but I think I also spent a lot of time pushing things down and avoiding a lot of stuff.

I have behavior that I’m not proud of.  A lot of it was referring to as “self destructive behavior”.  The biggest is/was retail therapy.  As a kid I spent a ton of money on stupid stuff, ran up credit card debt, etc.  I still do it today, but I do a better job of controlling the spending and make more money so these little sprees don’t necessarily impact me as bad.  What I didn’t realize (slow kid, remember?) is that I don’t think this is self sabotage like I originally thought, I think it’s a distraction.  I think when things are going so bad that working out, or loud music or reading, tv, movies aren’t enough to distract myself things like retail therapy kick in.  I get so focused on the pursuit, the technical specifications of what I’m looking at, shopping for the best price, comparing alternatives that it’s almost an addiction.  And it is, I’m addicted to turning my brain off and not feeling/thinking about whatever it is I’m avoiding.  This is up there with my “need for speed”, riding recklessly on a motorcycle, going so fast and silly that I have to completely focus on what I’m doing to (hopefully) stay alive.  Or tying more than a couple on, or back in the day finding a group of soldiers who wanted to go to the strip clubs and tagging along.  Nothing distracts a young, hetero male like naked breasts.

So great.  Again, how to apply the knowledge?  Obviously, learning how to deal with bad things without having to hide from it would be best.  But I think sometimes the brain does what it needs to to protect itself.  So then I guess learning healthier ways to distract myself.  Religion/prayer has helped.  Longboarding when the weather is good.  I’m not sure if as I get better if that will go away, it requires a lot of concentration right now.  Art will do it for me, but it’s a lot of work, and when I’m feeling depressed I can’t see myself wanting to get into something, but maybe with practice, with making art a habit, then maybe when things are good or bad I’ll do it?  I’ve never been a big video gamer but I’m wondering if that’s not a good idea.  Lots of people are more than able to spend hours and hours zoning out playing Call of Duty…

What do you do?

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Posted in Uncategorized on April 22, 2014 by me

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Weird Question that’s Apropos of Nothing…

Posted in Uncategorized on April 21, 2014 by me

All the suicide awareness classes in the Army all presented people who commit suicide as being in these terrible life situations.  No light at the end of the tunnel, no hope, rock bottom.  They’re feeling bad and see no end, no ever feeling good again.

So my question is do people ever commit suicide when they’re feeling good?  Because the know the bad times are coming again?

Seriously, just a thought that came out of nowhere.

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Posted in Uncategorized on April 19, 2014 by me

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My brain hurts

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on April 19, 2014 by me

My brain hurts

Something(s) to think about

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on April 19, 2014 by me

Two nuggets to think about when I’ve got time:

“Being in the midst of therapy and being hyper sensitive to my actions and feelings is probably making this a teensy more surreal.”

and:

“Yes. That’s what people who are in their head do: Try to control everything.”

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